The real reason is much different then we think. The people that we view as “the most successful” are actually driven from a much darker place; a place people don’t often think of as a primary motivator. They are actually driven from feelings of insecurities; feelings of inadequacies; and often feelings of abandonment. That’s right, they’ve been able to use the negative issues from their life to fuel them to achieve more. These feelings of fear, insecurity, inadequacies and abandonment have been used as a tool to produce much more than anything else. For instance, Steve Jobs, probably one of the best innovators of our time, was fueled and driven by his feeling of abandonment by his biological parents. His biological parents gave him up as a child in order to give Steve to parents that were college graduates. Steve Jobs grew up insecure and abandoned because of that and in combination with him being a scrawny & wiry kid, made him feel out of place. It was these insecurities that gave him the drive to want to prove himself. These insecurities would prove to be invaluable later on.
Another example of a wildly successful entrepreneur that grew up with insecurities was Barbara Corcoran, best known for her role in Shark Tank. Barbara grew up dyslexic and struggled tremendously in school. Because of her struggles early on in life, she always had a chip on her shoulder for not feeling as smart as others. She constantly felt the need to prove herself to people she felt were smarter than her, and this need to prove herself paid off big time. Because of the constant insecurities, Barbara always felt that had to out due her competitors; she had to work harder, know more and do more in order to compete with the rest. What’s interesting is that her Shark Tank cohost, Daymon John, is also dyslexic and has proven to be wildly successful in spite of his deficiencies. He was able to do so by channeling his feeling of inadequacies into a primary motivator. And of course, we can’t forget to mention one of the most famous entrepreneurs of our time, Sir Richard Branson, who also famously battled with dyslexia. Just like Barbara, Richard Branson used his struggles to motivate him to achieve massive success and amassed billions of dollars along the way.
What about people that don’t have disorders, how were they able to use their personal issues to motivate them to achieve the impossible? Well that’s exactly what Donald Trump did to drive his billion-dollar empire. Donald Trump was motivated by the need to prove himself to his father who was also in the Real Estate business. It was this primary motive of having to prove himself to his father that made him the success he is today. A highly successful person you may be familiar with who was also driven to prove himself to his dad was, owner of Success Magazine, Darren Hardy. He has made it known that because he was given up by his mother as a child and given to his father; it shaped who he is today. As a single dad, Darren Hardy’s father was a Football coach and love was simply not given in his house, it was earned. So that drive to make his dad proud is what drove him to work harder, longer and smarter than everyone else around him. Darren felt that if he didn’t impress his dad, he simply wouldn’t receive the love and attention he desired; and with out his mother in his life, this was extremely important for him.
So now that we know that the most successful people used their greatest setbacks, their biggest issues and their principle feelings of inadequacies to motivate them to accomplish their biggest achievements, how can you leverage your largest setbacks to your advantage? How can you use your feelings of insecurities to motivate you to achieve the impossible? Your insecurities can be your strongest asset and can be the best tool you can use to achieve success.
Want more proof? Tom Brady, Super Bowl winning quarterback, has said that his insecurities is the primary reason for his success “I always feel there’s someone hunting me down, someone right on my footsteps” He once told the Washington Post. His insecurities served him well (just take a look at all of his rings!)
Feelings of inadequacies are also the primary driver for the top CEO’s of our country. Many of them are often driven by the fear of failure or feeling of inadequacies. They feel that they may let down all of the people that work under them or are unable to perform to people’s expectations. They then channel those negative feelings and use them as fuel to drive them to achieve success.
This is only the tip of the iceberg, so many more successful people have made it to the top by using their “personal issues” as a main driver to success. So I hope you begin today to use this information to drive you to achieve your biggest goals. Use what you thought was your biggest disadvantage and turn it into your biggest advantage. Don’t let setbacks hold you back any longer. Use them as the jet fuel to power your internal engine. Just remind yourself that the world’s most successful all share common traits, the need to prove themselves and feelings of insecurities. If you can fully understand this and harness its powers to your advantage, there is nothing you can’t accomplish.
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